How do you see People


How do you see people? How you see people matters a lot because how you see people would invariable determine how they see you. Do you see People as those individuals you owe a duty to say hi every morning or do you see them as individuals with whom you are engaged in a flourishing relationship. If you see people as people you just greet and pass, you might end up in their eyes as that individual who normally pass here and greet us or that individual who lives in our neighbourhood. There is no passion, feeling or connection towards you. Everything is casual they regard you casual too.  You do not get to 'know“ them even after many years of knowing them. They too know you but from other people's perspectives. Your realities are wide apart, understanding is shrouded.

You do not get to know them and they do not get to know you so you remain strangers to each other. Their passions, enthusiasm, principles, ideas,  expectations, values, history and personal experiences are alien to you. You are boring, uninteresting and disinterested. They skip you and wouldn't wish to share their feelings with you. You get disconnected and ostracised.

People are there to be interacted with, to help and be helped. No one is an island and so are you. You should seek to connect with people in a deeper way, share in their joy and disappointment.       In this way you make a better connection and impression in their minds. Learn how and when to approach them, engage them. When people can see that you are no threat to them, they will embrace you. They will help you and favour you. Besides not knowing your neighbour or environment is a security risk. The best defense for anyone is the human defense and you can get that only when you learn to integrate with people.

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